There are 3 good places on Lido that are great for dates
The Cannery - a bit pricey but very good food. Upstairs is lively and downstairs is formal. Make a reservation on weekend nights though because it is crowded.
Sabatinos - this is out of the way on Lido, kind of in the little neighborhood. It has great Italian food and at night a guy sings on the patio. It is very relaxing. Try the sausage appetizer - sounds weird but it is excellent. Google it to get directions because it is hard to find.
Bluewater Grill - This place is good for seafood. The bar area is fun and casual. The prices are good for seafood.
For a really nice dinner, try either Bungalow or Landmark on PCH in CDM. Both have great food and high prices. Both are also good if you just want to go for drinks. I think Bungalow has free filet sliders on Monday or Tuesday during happy hour, but call and double check the day. They are delicious! Both are places that your wife will have an excuse to dress up for if she (or you) is into that.
In Irvine, I actually really like Il Fornaio even though it is a chain. The food is good and the service is always great. It is kind of in an office complex though, so that is a little strange. You can park in the complex for free if you don’t like valet.
Plums in Costa Mesa is great for breakfast, although it does get crowded.
Another good breakfast place is The Cottage on PCH in Laguna and right across the street is Las Brisas which has a good champagne brunch but not so great lunch and dinner.
Try Mozambique in Laguna for something different. The patio upstairs is a really cool atmosphere. They also have live music.
For a sports bar, try Chronic Tacos in Triangle Square. Guys like this place because the girls wear skimpy outfits and they have a ton of TVs and greasy mexican food.
Also, Rudy’s on the Peninsula can be a fun place to watch sports if you are into the 20-something crowd.
Also, I am a huge fan of Taco Rosa in Newport too, try it if you haven’t. It has great prices.
I just went to Royal Khyber (sp?) in Costa Mesa across from SCP for Indian and really liked it, although it was pricey for Indian food. Try the vegetarian Thali, even if you aren’t vegetarian.
Your wife will love the chocolate soufle at French 75 or Chat Noir.